We, the Women.
“Does it hurt?” “You must be exhausted.” “Do you want to rest instead of going out?” “I think you should take a break today.” “Here, let me help you with those.” “Your leg pain doesn’t seem so good, let’s go see the doctor.”
These comforting questions hold the power of healing — something we look forward to, at any time of the day from anyone. But have we ever considered asking them to the women in our lives? Waking up before everyone else, getting things ready for others, ensuring they don’t start working on an empty stomach or without having their morning brew. Managing and working at home is hard. Especially for women. You are constantly under this pressure to achieve perfection on both fronts — personal and professional. It is so easy for us to make callous remarks about their performance, without even realizing the struggle behind it or the effect it would have on their morale. And yet, every morning, they wake up with the same zeal, doing the chores, making it all seem effortless. Women are the gift to mankind — and we barely acknowledge them.
As you sit and read this article, a lady in your house would be cooking you a fresh meal. Another one would be chopping you some salad or fruit. And the elderly woman would expectantly wait for you to come and sit next to her, describing everything about your day, or cracking some jokes with her. Here’s the thing, they always want to know how ‘your’ day was, while they barely address their schedule. The grocery shopping at the market, fixing broken appliances, cooking fresh meals for everyone during the day, chopping vegetables, cutting or burning themselves in that process, making tea once you take a break from work. And this, combined with their work schedule because not all women are housewives. Some of them have to be badass at work as well, and that brings added stress to their already hectic lives. As you sit and savour that hot cup of tea, she is out there in the kitchen, drinking her tea and getting things ready for the next course of the day.
So go out there, ask the ladies in your life these questions. They need it more, and they need it now. Support them, and not financially; spend more time with them, get to know how they work, how they go on about their day, how they remember everyone’s choice. And take mental notes. Pamper them, not out of compulsion, but because they bust their asses and need a break from this bustling schedule called life. Not only would you take a burden off of them, but it would bring you so much closer to them emotionally and mentally. And that is the real gain or beauty of it!